About your coach

 
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Hey! I'm Nikki

If you struggle with knowing what you should do, but wonder why you don't do it…

If you are constantly judging yourself + feel like the next step looks more like a mountain, I hear you.

I know, I’ve been there. SO many of us smart, savvy ladies have been there…

I can help you.

More importantly, I can help you learn to help yourself...

 

 
 

I believe that everything I’ve gone through has been for a reason and that reason is to help other women rise. My entry point into the world of coaching and healing began with food, but as I quickly learned, it’s never about the food. It goes so much deeper and is often about our worthiness, our deservedness, our power, potential and our fears.

One of my favorite quotes is Marianne Williamson’s

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

I was terrified of pretty much everything for most of my teen and adult life for seemingly no reason. I was afraid to speak up so I mumbled or spoke in a high, soft voice. I agreed with whomever was the most powerful person in the room. I wouldn’t go to the bathroom out of fear of interrupting someone else speak. I felt wildly inadequate and powerless without a drink in my hand. I believed nobody cared what I had to say so I came up with all sorts of ways to hide and make myself unnoticeable. The food and the body issues were my distractions, they kept me focused on something I thought I could control so I could avoid what was really going on.

And what was really going on was that I wanted to think and speak for myself and I was too afraid to do it. I was afraid of rejection so I kept myself busy with my issues, kept telling myself that once I figured out all of this food stuff my life would magically fall into place. But the cycle continued because it wasn’t about figuring out food or even loving my body, it was about just trusting myself and figuring out which next step got me closer to loving myself. It wasn’t until I dug underneath the distractions (food, shopping, drinking, Netflix binges, obsessing over “health”) that I saw what I really needed was to believe I was deserving of everything I had and everything I wanted.

Even my coaching life has evolved. After almost a decade doing this work, I don’t let my clients hide from their lives. I used to let them wander and talk and overthink, but I’ve learned that is a disservice to them. I’ve honed my skills to cut through the distractions because I see them so clearly - because I’ve used them all myself! I challenge my clients to go out and live. When they tell me what they really want, I don’t let them forget it. Everyday I wake up and know that if I want something to be different I have to do something different. I hold my clients to the same standard. It’s simple and I realize the human desire to make it so hard and as a woman our tendency to overthink it to death. We can choose to make it simple, friends! Isn’t that liberating?

I practice everything I teach and have no shame in sharing all the ways I’ve held myself back and continue to invest in my own growth. I love to distract myself with details and coming up with elaborate stories about why things aren’t possible - I am familiar with that part of my brain that wants to make everything hard. We all have that and the more familiar we get with it, the less it gets to be in the driver’s seat of our lives.

The mindset coaching I do with myself and with my clients all over the world makes us more efficient, more decisive, more confident, more positive, more joyous and more of who we are meant to be.

If you’re ready to come out of hiding and stop sabotaging yourself, I invite you to spend 30 minutes on a call with me. Every woman that has taken me up on this, whether or not we end up working together, says it has given them clarity, hope and comfort knowing they are not alone. This is NOT a sales call, I’ve done enough “free consults” to know that you want to feel supported not sold a product. Simply CLICK HERE to schedule.