I had it all wrong.
For years I was living for ONE DAY. I was waiting for a skinnier body, a better boyfriend, a great job, a fashionable wardrobe, enough money, a cool car, tropical vacations…
While wishing this would all magically fall into place I was also busy binge drinking, complaining about my job, going into debt buying clothes + hiding out in my apartment burying my not-enoughness in late night ice cream + candy binges.
I expected it all to change without doing anything differently. Great plan.
Then I swung in the opposite direction + started to do ALL of the things to fix myself.
I thought becoming a personal trainer would give me a hot body + becoming a health coach would make me the perfect eater.
What I needed was a little wisdom on how to balance DOING + BEING.
We can latch onto a new diet in the hopes it will change our lives. Then it doesn't + we're back to the old story that we just aren't strong enough or we've failed.
Equally we can latch onto ideas about ourselves that keep us stuck. "There aren't enough letters behind my name to speak intelligently"or "who the hell am I to ask for or deserve a raise." So we don't move forward, we don't speak up + don't ask for what we want.
Maybe we're DOING too much grasping. Whether it's too much wishing with no action or too much action with no way to enjoy the rewards. Maybe we could use a little room to breathe.
I hear a lot women tell me there isn't enough time but that more about how we are prioritizing ourselves. We all have the same 24 hours, right? You don't always need 2 hours to move your body. You don't always need to spend hundreds of dollars or spend an hour to eat good food.
What if you stopped waiting for something else to make you better?
What if you took steps to move forward but didn't get attached to what happens next.
Maybe your body is the way it needs to be right now so everyday you recommit to taking really good care of it in ways that bring you lots of PLEASURE (this is not just about food)!
(And by the way women’s bodies are constantly fluctuating, regardless of how strict your diet + exercise routine is, so you might as well stop fighting)
I'd love to hear in the comments what small action YOU want to take to balance DOING + BEING?
Take a day off? Go for a walk in the evenings? Put someone else in charge of dinner? Turn off your phone/computer/TV for a few hours? Eat some ice cream + enjoy it guilt free?
PERSONAL SHARE: I would like to spend some technology free moments outside in the middle of the day to ground myself + remember life is not a race, I can chill out + still be productive.