I'm going to talk about butts, but first I want to talk about sisters.
I love being part of this powerful shift in the world right now that is moving women into our own unique kind of power that is collective, inclusive, honest, soft, emotional but also really freaking strong and powerful.
(PS this is not excluding men, I think men play a huge part, there are definitely some really incredible men in my life - probably the only men reading this post, that's how great they are).
This has been happening in my own life for the last 5 years in living rooms, in restaurants and coffee shops, on trips, on long walks in the park with my women, my sisters, my tribe - the people that let me be myself, WHATEVER that looks like.
Together we’ve been busy practicing our superpowers.
We practice telling the truth instead of pretending our lives are perfect little packages: we get angry, get excited, get loud, we practice acceptance, talk about our bodies, about parenting, share grief, celebrate wins, admitting our fears and failures, laugh, hug, cry, laugh some more and talking about our dreams and desires no matter how crazy they sound. We are practicing being unapologetic for who we are and what we want.
We are practicing, together, the way women were meant to do. We connect and ask for help, get and give help - we hold each other up with a whole bunch of love, understanding and plenty of laughing (which reminds me of a story I’m going to share shortly).
It’s actually the way women have been doing it for centuries, women tend and befriend, that is our nature.
That’s our superpower.
We need each other as we navigate life: parenthood, marriage, our changing bodies, aging, death/loss, abuse, addiction, illness or any life transition.
We are wired for human connection and for the last 6 weeks, I’ve been meeting with a few of my ladies and we’ve had the most real, raw, eye opening conversations that have led me back to writing, deeper into myself, my truth and closer to loving and accepting myself without judgement. All of which make me a much happier person, not because everything is perfect, but because I’m not hiding and I know I’m not alone.
At our walk and talk gathering yesterday, we walked my dogs and then sat in my living room talking about death, which led to talking about age, which led to a serious fit of laughter.
I was talking about the messy, tumultuous situations I found myself in when I was in my early 20s and I ended with, “being in your 20s sucks, you don’t appreciate any of the cool parts until you’re not in your 20s.” This is when we started listing all of the great things we didn’t appreciate like our butts. There was lots of laughing about what our 20 year old butts looked like and how we’d take the life and butts we have today over the life and cute butts of our 20’s over and over again.
I hope this inspires you to spend time with your people or maybe even finding your people and also a few laughs about your life (and your butt) in your 20’s. I’m sure you’ll appreciate how far you’ve come.
Thank you for being my people in real life and on the internet, letting me share my stories and fly my freak flag in hopes you’ll go out into the world and do the same. xo