If you find yourself walking around focused on what’s wrong with you, it’s really hard to remember what’s great about you. And there are plenty of great things about you.
This time of year can quickly draw your attention towards what’s not going well. What is it about this holiday that makes us feel like we are never doing enough?
If you find yourself in this camp, well, you’re not alone. A lot of us are there. Luckily, we each have the power to bring our focus back on what we want.
Here are 5 ways to find more holiday ease this year:
- Don’t hate, meditate. If that word makes you nervous, spend a few minutes (that’s all) paying attention to your breath. Sometimes I will count my breath down from 100. That takes about 2 minutes, if you don’t have 2 minutes, that’s a problem. Try doing it in the car, but keep your eyes open.
- Gratitude throwdown. In the easiest way possible spend some time listing in your brain, out loud, written down or typed on your phone things you’re grateful for in that moment and be specific. (My son singing to himself before bed, the way the sun is peeking out from behind the clouds, the sound and smell of rain, the taste of mom’s cranberry bread, the funny text you got from your friend at the perfect time)
- Be the light. Help someone out, bring soup to someone, send a sweet text or email to let someone know you’re thinking of them. Donate your time or money. Spend time looking people in the eye and giving compliments. Spread some love.
- Do something selfish. Do something that is 100% for you. Block off a few hours to spend reading, take yourself out for a solo lunch, get the family take-out for dinner and go for a moonlight walk, go to a yoga class or workshop. The magic is that by filling yourself up, you will make everyone around you feel better too.
- Investigate and then decide. Making decisions based on how you want to feel takes practice and it will change your life. Now is always a good time to start, so think about how you want the holidays to feel (easy, joyful, sacred, energetic, quiet, extravagant, quaint, simple). From there figure out what you can do to feel that way and then own it (don’t apologize for not pleasing everyone, that’s impossible).
What have you done to create more ease for yourself durning the holidays?