Books are my love language (have you read that book about love languages?).
So is learning. Put those together + you can see my vast collection of non-fiction books. About eating, cooking, diets, pregnancy, birthing, parenting, yoga, Ayurveda, herbs, spirituality, business, coaching, marketing, psychology, empowerment + more.
Turns out I’m carrying a lot around in this brain. One thing I’ve learned from all of this studying is the importance of BLANK SPACE:
Meaning, actually doing, reflecting + practicing what you learn.
(This part I have not always been good at, but I’m going to tell you what the trick is.)
I’ve been the person who jumped from book to book, from course to course, diet to diet, without checking in to see what actually worked for me. What felt good + what felt off, what felt like a challenge + what felt like I was pushing for the sake of “fixing” some part of myself.
The blank space is like that moment you are trying to remember the name of that one actor, but you can’t, so you completely change the subject or go do something different + then it pops into your head. That's the magic trick: changing focus + letting go.
Blank space is chilling the F out so you have the space to find what you’re looking for.
For me this is anytime I am in a creative head space. If I walk away from something I’m trying really hard to figure out or that I’m worrying about (work, parenting, money, time), the solution shows up only when I get out of my own way. And that always makes me wonder why we tend to make things so hard on ourselves when they don’t have to be.
I’ve created a blank space experiment for myself this summer in the form of reading novels instead of any NEW non-fiction - a stretch from my usual line up for sure. Where can you to find some blank space? Where can you indulge in something different? Try something a little new? Books may not be your thing, so maybe you try different recipes, different TV (perhaps a break from watching politics or reality tv to watch more comedy), a new activity/exercise style. Even if it's just one time, it doesn't require MORE time, it's just a shift in focus.
I’m already half way through my 6th book in the last month, which surprised me because I thought I wouldn’t have enough time to read because it’s not as “productive.” Turns out I’ve found myself with more energy, more creativity, more ideas, more time for everything I’ve learned to take shape in my life because I’m not focused on jumping to the next shiny object.
I have a long list of novels I cannot wait to read while I relax in various places (parking lots, waiting rooms, by the pool, in the pool, on the beach, on airplanes, in my bed). If you want to read with me, here is my Pinterest book list.
Speaking of books, the Summer portion of Beautiful You Project Live will be a mini book club (I’ll be putting all of this non-fiction reading to good use). Our first book + topic next Tuesday evening will be Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight by Linda Bacon, PhD. You can read more about this drop in women’s group in Sacramento here.